An Average Guy’s Guide To Giving That Erotic Massage That Leads To Sex

Every man at one time or the other has struggled with getting things physical and sexual with the woman they like. One thing we all probably failed to realise is that the bridge between normal conversation and explosive sex could be a massage.
We are going to give you a guide to follow that can allow you go from having a fancy meal at a restaurant or watching a movie at the cinemas to giving an erotic massage in the bedroom.
While You’re On A Date
When you’re out with your woman at the cinemas or restaurant, put your arm on her shoulder and give her a little rub there. Make it as casual as possible and ask her if she enjoys the little rub. When she answers in the affirmative (they mostly do), take your hand away and say “maybe I’ll give you a massage later” and proceed to switch the conversation. This will sow the seed in her mind.
It’s entirely your business how you get her from the venue of the date to your house but you may want to consider asking if she would like anything else after you both have spent hours outside. The moment she says no, leave and head straight to your place except she has an objection.
Your Place
Now you’re at your place and the best thing to do is to allow her relax then tell her you’d give her a massage. Take her hand and lead her to the bedroom while she watches you arrange and put everything in place. Doing this will make her take you seriously and see you as a professional that is willing to keep the distance in order to get things done the right way. You can try dimming the light to get her to relax.
After this, it’s time to tell her to lie face down with all her clothes off except her underwear. Telling her this will get her to relax as she will focus more on the fact that she still has some clothing on.
READ: An Average Guy’s Guide To Turning Her On
Accentuate The Mood With Music
It’s best to have some music playing in the background to set the mood right for the massage. Try to get a good and sensual playlist that will set the mood right for the massage about to come up. You can also try searching online stores and applications such as Spotify for massage music. Listen to them beforehand to be sure they will give you the right rhythm.
Get Some Oil
The next thing to get right is the massage oil. Get oil that smells nice and is smooth to touch. When the oil is ready, you need to get a little undressed by telling her in the most sexy tone possible that “I’ll take my shirt off so I don’t get oil on it”. You can then strip down to your shorts after this.
Start The Action
The best thing to do here is to straddle her back but remember to hold your own weight why you do this to avoid her feeling the whole impact. Pour some of the oil into your palms and warm it up by rubbing before applying it to her upper back area. After doing this for about 20 seconds, ask her if you can undo her bra as it is getting in the way of you giving her a proper massage.
As you undo the clasp of her bra, watch to see if she tosses the bra aside or keeps it on. The first option suggests she’s willing to get physical. Spend at least five minutes massaging her upper back and shoulders while ensuring that you get the rhythm right. Ask her if the pressure is right while ensuring that you’re not too fast as this can kill the vibe. Proceed to her lower back and sides while also spending a few minutes on her arms and hands.
The last part should be the legs and feet. Bend one of her legs and start rubbing her foot and lower leg before moving to the other leg.
READ: Touch Her Here And Turn Her On
Turn The Heat Up
This is the last and most important part. Work your hands slowly on one leg, ensuring one hand is on the inside and the other on the outside. Rub through her thighs and close enough to her honey pot before turning the hand close to it away at the last moment. Doing this five to seven times will increase her anticipation each time your hands are close and you can also gently brush by.
If she shows signs like moaning, raising her butt or tightening her muscles, you’re close. Proceed to massage her butt before going back to her shoulders. Get close enough that she can feel your breathing on her skin and kiss her on the cheeks while you massage her shoulders. Move the kisses to her lips and the rest as they say is history.

Dirty talk will do you as a guy a lot of good and you may not realise it until you get rebuffed by a girl for being too nice with your words. Mental stimulation is much more important than physical stimulation or anything else for women. This means that women love to be played and teased mentally with  dirty words with which they can fantasise about the things you will do to them in the bedroom.
Talking dirty the right way will probably have her chasing you for sex because she always wants to experience the orgasm you make her imagine. You however need to warm her up before spewing filthy words that will make her crave for your body.
Do The Ground Work
One of the most important things for women is trust and they want to be as comfortable as it gets with you before you start talking dirty with them. As such, you have to build rapport and attraction over time. Doing this may take hours, weeks or months and is most times dependent on how sexual the girl is.
Employ Fantasy Or Questions and Answers
Anytime you hang out with her or you’re talking to her on the phone, you can try having a question about and answer session that can put you both in the dirty talk mood. An example of what to ask her is “What do you enjoy most during sex..?” or “What’s something you’d like to do but haven’t gotten around to doing yet in the bedroom?”
READ: 41 Dirty Questions To Ask A Girl
Use Certain Words
If you’ve already had sex with her, talking dirty with her can be a bit easy as you can simply drop a few dirty lines here and there inside of the bedroom which you can later use as a text message or when you’re out on a date. Words like “your breasts are absolutely perfect” can come in as a dirty complementary during the process of having sex. When you’re done having sex, you can simply send her a message saying “I’m still thinking about how amazing your ass is…, your boobs are just incredible”.
Also pay attention to the words she moans during sex as you can use them to talk dirty to her later on.
Make Use Of The Most Comfortable Tool
And by tool we mean what you’re most comfortable with in conveying your dirty words to her. Verbal means are best when you have some level of understanding with the girl but texting and the use of social media can also do the job. Texting on one hand can have her imagining the words you type and also helping to build up sexual tension for onward activation.
Make Her Want More
You should learn to be the one to initiate the dirty talk while also pushing it to the point where it gets very intense and exciting. Not doing this may make the situation boring especially if you keep saying the same things over and over again. Consider using phrases like, “Guess what… you’re mine tonight…” Or “I just took a look at your picture and you’ve got me thinking of all the things I want to do to you!”
READ: An Average Guy’s Guide To Turning Her On
The Don’ts
Don’t go straight to talking dirty with a girl you just met as you will come off as nothing but a pervert which will freak her out. Never go over the top with your words unless she asks you to. If you suspect she’s getting angry, chances are you introduced it a little too early, used a word she didn’t like or you were too aggressive. In this case, it’s best to take a step back and analyse the situation. Get back in touch with her and apologise.
Some women may however get offended by certain words which may be considered to be extreme while others will get right along with it. It’s best you test the waters and get along with the flow. Now that’s how you go about talking dirty to a girl. Put all into use and thank us later.

Dirty talk will do you as a guy a lot of good and you may not realise it until you get rebuffed by a girl for being too nice with your words. Mental stimulation is much more important than physical stimulation or anything else for women. This means that women love to be played and teased mentally with  dirty words with which they can fantasise about the things you will do to them in the bedroom.
Talking dirty the right way will probably have her chasing you for sex because she always wants to experience the orgasm you make her imagine. You however need to warm her up before spewing filthy words that will make her crave for your body.
Do The Ground Work
One of the most important things for women is trust and they want to be as comfortable as it gets with you before you start talking dirty with them. As such, you have to build rapport and attraction over time. Doing this may take hours, weeks or months and is most times dependent on how sexual the girl is.
Employ Fantasy Or Questions and Answers
Anytime you hang out with her or you’re talking to her on the phone, you can try having a question about and answer session that can put you both in the dirty talk mood. An example of what to ask her is “What do you enjoy most during sex..?” or “What’s something you’d like to do but haven’t gotten around to doing yet in the bedroom?”
READ: 41 Dirty Questions To Ask A Girl
Use Certain Words
If you’ve already had sex with her, talking dirty with her can be a bit easy as you can simply drop a few dirty lines here and there inside of the bedroom which you can later use as a text message or when you’re out on a date. Words like “your breasts are absolutely perfect” can come in as a dirty complementary during the process of having sex. When you’re done having sex, you can simply send her a message saying “I’m still thinking about how amazing your ass is…, your boobs are just incredible”.
Also pay attention to the words she moans during sex as you can use them to talk dirty to her later on.
Make Use Of The Most Comfortable Tool
And by tool we mean what you’re most comfortable with in conveying your dirty words to her. Verbal means are best when you have some level of understanding with the girl but texting and the use of social media can also do the job. Texting on one hand can have her imagining the words you type and also helping to build up sexual tension for onward activation.
Make Her Want More
You should learn to be the one to initiate the dirty talk while also pushing it to the point where it gets very intense and exciting. Not doing this may make the situation boring especially if you keep saying the same things over and over again. Consider using phrases like, “Guess what… you’re mine tonight…” Or “I just took a look at your picture and you’ve got me thinking of all the things I want to do to you!”
READ: An Average Guy’s Guide To Turning Her On
The Don’ts
Don’t go straight to talking dirty with a girl you just met as you will come off as nothing but a pervert which will freak her out. Never go over the top with your words unless she asks you to. If you suspect she’s getting angry, chances are you introduced it a little too early, used a word she didn’t like or you were too aggressive. In this case, it’s best to take a step back and analyse the situation. Get back in touch with her and apologise.
Some women may however get offended by certain words which may be considered to be extreme while others will get right along with it. It’s best you test the waters and get along with the flow. Now that’s how you go about talking dirty to a girl. Put all into use and thank us later.

When it comes to satisfying your partner, size really doesn’t matter. Whether you’re large and well-endowed or you’re a little bit lacking downside, there’s a sex position that’s best for your exact shape and size. Scientists estimate that the average length of a fully erect penis can range from between 12 to 14 cm and that of a flaccid penis from 8 to 12 cm. The girth or circumference on the other hand is estimated to be between 9 to 12 cm when erect and 8 to 10 cm when flaccid.
Penises however come in different shapes and sizes and women have little concern regarding this. What they are most concerned about is how you can use your tool to get them to orgasm.
Check out the different penis sizes and a guide to using them to the full satisfaction of you and your partner.
Thinner Guys
The best position for you with the thin penis is one in which her legs are brought in closer together. This will allow you feel bigger inside of her. You may want to consider starting off with the doggy style while ensuring her legs are tightly pressed together and get her to move forward slowly till she’s lying flat on her belly. Doing this will make everything seem tight and pleasurable for both of you.
The Thick Mamba
If the circumference of your penis is on the very thick side, you may want to consider bringing some lubricant along when you want to make out with your partner. The cowgirl position would be best to start off with. It will be the most comfortable for her to control the depth and speed of penetration. You can then switch to another style when she gets really wet.
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The Average Dude
The fact that your penis seems so perfect doesn’t mean it actually is. You may need to spice things up a lot by experimenting in the bedroom. Try different angles, including spreading her legs apart and keeping them close together to determine which one creates the highest sexual impact. You may also want to consider bringing a sex toy into the mix or using your fingers to rub her clitoris while your penis is inside of her.
Big And Well-endowed
If you are big and well-endowed than the normal average guy out there, it is important you do all you can to control the speed and depth at which you carry out penetrative sex. This is because the penis is between 8 to 10 cm on the average and anything exceeding this can be pretty painful for women.
There’s however no reason to fret as there are sex positions that are ideal for sizes that exceed the typical vagina. A very good position for your well-endowed member is the reverse cowgirl position. This position allows her to control the pace and depth of your penis inside of her. Moreover, the reverse cowgirl position has been ranked by various polls as one of the most enjoyable sex position for women and is one position that can get your partner to orgasm.
If you’re however particular about being in control, you can also try out the missionary position. You should however ensure that you keep her legs closer together to avoid going in too deep and hurting her.
READ: Best Sex Positions For Plus-Sized Ladies
Small Johnnys
There’s no reason to panic if you’re lacking down there. All it takes is for you to be able to work with your resource and still make her have a good time with you. The best sex position for you are the rear entry positions such as doggy style which has actually been voted the favourite sex position in England, Wales and the Netherlands. Doggy style allows for the deepest penetration possible with your small member while also giving your hands freedom to play with other sensitive parts of her body.

Perfecting the withdrawal method is one skill every young man should master especially if you enjoy sex without a condom. This method has been around for quite sometime and it’s sometimes referred to as coitus interruptus or the “pull out method”.
The method is one that every average guy should learn even as it requires a bit of self-control, experience, and trust. It is not entirely foolproof and may be unreliable.
How It Works
Withdrawal method simply works by you taking your penis out of the vagina right before ejaculating. This limits the chances of any sperm from the ejaculates semen getting to the the egg for fertilisation. The truth however is that not all of your sperm is released the moment you climax. Some are quite eager and get released before you’re done which of course may get your partner pregnant. With each ejaculation you are releasing up to 400 Million sperms cells. Some go on to survive in the uterus of your partner for up to five days which can on the long run result in pregnancy.
How To Perfect Your Skills
Now you know the withdrawal method is not entirely reliable but this doesn’t mean it does not work. It’s not rocket science as it basically entails knowing when you’re about to climax and avoiding and minimising to the barest level possible the chances of your sperm entering your partner’s vagina and in turn getting to her eggs. There are some important points you need to pay attention to if you want to get to the point where your pull out game will be the envy of all.
READ: Ways You Are Using The Condom Wrongly
Know When You Climax
It’s very important to know exactly when you’d about to climax. This can help you a lot in timing when you should get your penis out. Knowing the the exact moment when you’ve reached the peak of your sexual excitement or when you can no longer postpone ejaculation is one sure way of avoiding pregnancy. If you cannot accurately guess the moment, your effort at pulling out is futile. You can determine the moment by holding yourself back the moment you have an immense rush of excitement or blood flow to your brain. At that point, simply reduce the pace of penetration and pull out.
Ejaculate Some Distance Away
When you can correctly time when you feel the rush, it’s now time to have your semen gushing out with incredible speed. This is another critical moment as the point where you ejaculate can determine if your effort will be futile or not. The moment you pull out, try the much you can to ejaculate some distance away from her labia region.
This is important as any sperm cell close to the vagina region may just easily find it’s way in and cause fertilisation to occur. The safest area is around her pelvis where she can easily wash off without having to fear she’d mistakenly send your sperm cells in.
Something To Note
Some researchers believe that pre-ejaculate or pre-cum contain enough sperm cells left in the urethra of your partner from a previous ejaculation which may result in pregnancy. The advantages inherent in pulling out is that your partner doesn’t have to worry about going on pills but it doesn’t protect against sexually transmitted infections such as HIV, Gonorrhea and Hepatitis.
It’s best you’re in a monogamous relationship or in the alternative use protection to avoid risks. But if you want to ride the raw way, nothing beats the points we’ve given.

Ellen Degeneres is quite popular for her tricks and Julia Roberts wasn’t prepared when she visited The Ellen Show while promoting her new movie, Mother’s Day.
During a game of ‘Pitch, Please’, Roberts was pranked into selling sex toys.
Because her character in the Mother’s Day movie was a talk-show host, Ellen decided to have Roberts display her salesman skills by convincing the audience to buy the products.
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Unknown to the Pretty Woman star, the audience knew she was selling sex toys even though she didn’t. And she gave it her best sales move.
The sex toys were a blindfold, furry handcuffs and a whip.
Roberts advertised, “I think everyone should have one of these. It is versatile. It is hypoallergenic. It comes in a variety of sizes, and Mother’s Day is around the corner.”
At which Ellen teased, “And you have this, obviously?.”
An oblivious Roberts responded, “Oh, I don’t want to brag but I have a couple…well, 7.”
Read: Julia Roberts’s Younger Sister, Nancy Motes Dies Of Drug Overdose At 37
Finally, Ellen revealed what was in the mystery box Roberts was selling and the star was a mixture of shock, shame, humor and laughter, as she screamed, “Oh my God!”